Almost everyone has an “inner critic”—a part that judges, nags, or pushes us relentlessly. While this part can feel harsh, IFS teaches that it’s trying to protect us from pain or failure.
Instead of fighting your inner critic, try approaching it with curiosity. Ask yourself:
- “What is my critic worried will happen if it stops?”
- “When did this part first start doing its job?”
Often, critics develop in response to early experiences where we felt unsafe or inadequate. By listening to your critic and understanding its fears, you can help it relax. Sometimes, the critic just wants reassurance that you’ll be okay, even if you make mistakes.
In IFS therapy, we work together to build a relationship with your inner critic, helping it find new, healthier ways to support you. Over time, you may notice the critic becoming less harsh and more encouraging—making space for greater self-acceptance and growth.